Lover hurt, lied to friends, or associates duped, is a bad experience hard to forget. If successful forgotten, that does not mean we can forgive those who hurt us.
When was overwhelmed by feelings of sadness, anger, and disappointment, we will respond with the most natural way. Trying to forget the bad events, so no need to feel the negative emotions generated. According to Stephen Hayes, a psychologist University of Nevada, it is a reasonable action.
Because humans tend to not want to face the problem directly. Not believe? It turned out the problem to make our lives comfortable disrupted. So we choose the most secure way.
But avoid the negative emotions do not guarantee our next life to be happy. Because when we re reminded of the event, all the negative emotions will come back. And if this happens, then we are not willing to actually have experienced the bad events.
Should we accept the events of the past with a big heart. Everything has happened and we can not change it. Think of it as a process that had to go through to become a better person. "Accepting the situation does not mean surrender. The decisions we make and actions we do, based on the understanding that we have now, "Jon Kabat-Zinn, professor and researcher from the University of Massachusetts Medical School, explains. Try to forgive the people who have acted badly towards us. No point in storing negative emotions inside.
Saturday, March 20, 2010
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